Fashion is a powerful tool for self-expression, but sometimes, the way we dress can unintentionally send the wrong message. Some fashion choices, while stylish, might make you seem unapproachable and intimidating. Here are some surprising style mistakes that could be creating a barrier between you and the people around you.
1. All Black All the Time
While black is undeniably chic unless you’re going for an “off limits” vibe on purpose, wearing all dark colors can deter people from approaching you. Wearing light colors is literally a metaphor for being bright and open. Try adding a pop of color to your next outfit.
2. Stiff Structured Outfits
Outfits with sharp lines and rigid tailoring can create a formal, standoffish vibe. It’s a metaphoric way to say, “I’m serious and unapproachable.” Soften your look with flowy fabrics or relaxed silhouettes to appear more easygoing.
3. Oversized Sunglasses Indoors
Wearing oversized sunglasses, especially indoors, can create a sense of mystery or aloofness. When people can’t see your eyes, it can be intimidating. While your sunglasses may well be stylish, they can also make it hard for people to make eye contact with you, which is essential for approachability. Think Anna Wintour, the famous Vogue editor-in-chief who inspired “The Devil Wears Prada.”
4. Too Many Layers
While layering can add dimension to an outfit, piling on coats, jackets, scarves, and other bulky, overwhelming pieces might push people away. Stick to 2-3 layers for a balanced appearance that will entice people to come up and talk to you.
5. Wearing High Heels Everywhere
High heels are a fashion staple that is lots of fun to wear. However, be mindful that they can make you seem intimidating or unapproachable, especially in casual settings. Opt for flats or low heels when you want to appear more relaxed and open to conversation.
6. Always Wearing Neutrals
Just like black and dark colors can be off-putting, a wardrobe full of neutrals like beige, gray, and black can sometimes come across as cold or uninviting. Injecting some warmth with earth tones or pastels can soften your look and make you seem more approachable.
7. Too Much Statement Jewelry
Statement jewelry is a fun way to express your style, but wearing too many bold pieces at once can create a look that’s overwhelming. This might deter people from striking up a conversation with you. Try sticking to one statement piece at a time that still expresses who you are but also keeps your look balanced and welcoming.
8. Tight Busy Pieces
Clothing that’s too tight is a great way to show off your figure and prove your confidence. But this can not only be uncomfortable, but it can also make you appear tense or closed off. Wearing looser, more relaxed clothing metaphorically says that you’re open to forming new connections with people.
9. Head-to-Toe Designer
Whilst you might think it’s a statement, wearing head-to-toe designer brands can make you appear aloof or out of touch with everyday people. This doesn’t mean you can’t wear your high-end pieces, it just means that you should try mixing them with more accessible items to create a more relatable and approachable style.
10. Heavy Dramatic Makeup
While makeup can enhance your features, wearing a heavy face of makeup is like wearing a mask or a suit of armor; people may feel that they’re not seeing the real you. A more natural look can help you appear more open and approachable.
11. Carrying a Large, Structured Bag
Oversized, structured bags can create a physical barrier between you and strangers, making it harder for new people to approach you and enter your life. If you want to appear more approachable, consider carrying a smaller, softer bag.
12. Overpowering Perfume
Everyone has a signature scent that they love, but if you’re dousing yourself in perfume, you could be putting strangers off before they even talk to you. A strong scent can be overwhelming and off-putting to those around you. Opt for a light, subtle fragrance that enhances your presence without overpowering the space.
13. Overly Trendy Outfits
While staying on top of trends is exciting for a fashionista, wearing overly trendy outfits can make you seem unapproachable to those who don’t share the same fashion sense. Balancing trendy items with classic pieces can make you more relatable and is kinder to your wallet, too.
14. Always Wearing a Hat
Hats can be a great accessory, but like sunglasses, constantly wearing one, especially indoors, can create a barrier between you and others. Removing your hat in social situations shows openness and a willingness to engage with new people.
15. Dressing Too Formally
Wearing formal attire in a casual setting is not only a fashion faux pas, but it can make you seem out of place and unapproachable. Always make sure to check the dress code and dress appropriately for the occasion in order to blend in and make others feel comfortable approaching you.